Great love and relationships are not built on special occasion flowers, chocolates and great sex alone. 

Sure those things don’t go amiss… however if you are delivering as a special occasion band aid’s that you hope will put you in favor, you should know they are more likely to put you in the dog house.

Did you know: Research shows that many long term relationship come to a crashing halt on Valentines day.  The words may or may not be spoken on that day however, the wheels of the emotional divorce have already began to roll into motion.

In a recent survey more than 80% of the men whose wives asked for a divorce say; they are totally shocked,

they had NO IDEA…

These guys were happy in the same marriage their wife wanted out of!

What does that mean?  Maybe someones not speaking clearly enough, and maybe someones not listening well enough?

Whether we are aware of it or not, we all have a deep and natural craving to feel special to someone else.   Someone who sees us in ways that we wish we could see ourselves.

Very often that’s a big part of why we fall in love…they made you see yourself beyond the limited framework you had held of yourself,  and for that time you began to allow yourself to feel the truth of it.

Whether you are alone or coupled at Valentines, it won’t matter if you don’t have a healthy model for recognizing what you want when it shows up and the skills and tools to keep it…

Below is a video gift I have set up for you, because if you really want your relationship to go to the next level of depth and connection I would highly suggest that you take a look  at applying:

“The 5 Foundations of Building Healthy, Loving Relationships”

Enjoy and please feel free to share this with your friends and leave your feedback.

Happy Valentines:

There have been times when we have craved love and when a thin malnourished version of its self sneaks in through the back door we hold on too tight.

Fearing love and craving love are two sides of the same coin…

Both can have us holding on to someone or something, so desperately that we squeeze all the life out of it.

When you learn to love yourself you will embrace love, even knowing that its encounter may wound you. For love its self cannot wound, only the illusion of love paid for with currency of self respect leaves us wounded and emotionally bankrupt. From this bankruptcy of the heart many try to quit, swearing off love, rather than, swearing off the illusions placed upon it.

There are also those who have been wounded and they learn, they know these are not the wounds of the weak; these are the wounds that empower us to return to a deeper place of love. For the potion with which we bathe and heal the wounds of loves encounters is a rich distillation of self and mutual respect.

Only by learning to love yourself can you truly recognize love when it arrives at your door. However without knowing and embracing self respect, true love will remain hidden from you as the greatest mystery of life.

To know love, we must take a chance at love. Love is the baptism that has and that can if we let it, cleanse the heart, soul and mind of all its illusions. However, what the mind and body combined call love can also be the author of illusion.

To truly know the depth of this life we must be willing to engage in the adventure of a lifetime, knowing that love has the power to crush us under foot and at the same time raise us on the wings of angels to the heights we could have only dreamed.

Love is the rain that falls on the dry seed of our soul;

it fertilizes and nourishes that which has lain dormant in the desert of fear. Through love we learn to question our limitations so as to express our soul’s purpose.

To truly love we must rid ourselves of the fears that keep us silent and lazy.

We must never settle for a mere sent or flavour of love, we must not settle for the idea of love. For the true heart, the true soul has both patience and courage, for they know love is the holy grail we all seek, if only secretly.

So have patience because waiting for love gives you the time to earn the gift of true self love without which you would never know that depth that is a soul love shared.

To find, recognize and embrace your beloved you must become the beloved.

To become the beloved you must be able to be-loved.  So let love in through the front door, by first remembering that you are a gift from God whose worthiness of love is inherent, for at your essence, love is what you are.

Live and love with courage, Dov…

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