End Bullying!

I am happy to see so many people are stepping into a leadership role with regard to posting blogs, teaching seminars and generally raising awareness about the implications of our children being bullied or becoming bully’s…

That being said: May I suggest that we all take a look at the bigger picture around bullying.

Maybe you yourself have experienced what it feels like to be bullied, not just as a child but even as an adult…

Imagine for a moment that you overheard someone speaking about you, or something you supposedly did.  You know for sure that this person does not really know you, they certainly do not know your circumstances or the true nature of your character.

Nonetheless, here they are using their words to to attack you, your character, or your physicality. In that moment, don’t you feel bullied?

Let’s face it a bully exerts power over someone who feels powerless to do anything about it!

Whether directly or indirectly our words can be used to bully and damage another.

“Sticks and stones can break our bones but gossip really wounds us!” ~Dõv Baron

You know as well as I do that at it’s core bullying  is a process that chips away at the self worth of another, until they feel ashamed and not good enough.

Doing this we dehumanize another and we treat the person being bullied as if they have no soul. In so doing we have moved away from our own true compassionate nature and into soulless behaviour.

When someone who does not truly know you speaks poorly of you or your situation, we call it “harmless gossip”. What I am suggesting is that in order to raise our own awareness as leaders of our families and our communities we need to call it by it true name: bullying! I myself, I am ashamed to say have been guilty of this and I urge you to also consider raising your own awareness around this kind of behaviour.

Let’s remember that everyone from the homeless to the most famous celebrity have a soul. Despite what we hear or are told, let’s remember that we do not ever fully know who someone is or why they did a certain thing at a certain time.

Every time we gossip or add to the gossip about someone we do not personally know, (IE a celebrity) we are in fact bullying…

Isn’t NOW the time to step up to the next level of behavioural awareness? To be a leader who has the courage to NOT do what seems okay, but rather, step into excellence?

Come to the edge, let’s fly!

Claim Your Competitive Edge

Live with courage,

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Isn’t it strange that we need an actual holiday to remind us to be thankful?

I know that many of you who read my articles don’t live in the US and for many, where you live there is no such holiday as ‘Thanksgiving’.  However, wherever you are in the world, please accept my gratitude as you read on you’ll know why I’m specifically talking to you .

I know that at this time of year you’re probably pretty busy however,  I think you will see that by investing a few minutes to read this article will prove well worth your time.
No matter what country you are living in, right now, let me ask you to be honest and answer this question:

How much time do you spend in genuine gratitude?

I’m sure you’ve noticed that very day there seems to be a million new things to do, every day it can seem difficult to slow down enough so you can catch a little down time.  Maybe you turn on the TV to unwind, only to once again be assaulted with the news of doom and gloom.

Most of the time, most people are running around like chickens with their heads cut off doing more and more, while feeling less and less connected, to themselves or anyone else.
The result is that most people are running on empty!
So, in a crazy hectic world what can we do to fill up a little?

Right now let me challenge you to STOP and take a moment to become aware of the blessings in your life.

There is a wonderful ‘new’ movement of interest in manifestation.
Perhaps you have read about it in my books or have heard me talk about it either at a workshop, my podcasts or in a tele-program: Quantum Resonance energy is the necessary ingredient for manifestation.  Well, one of the most powerful quantum energies for manifestation is gratitude.

Okay, you need to stop skimming for a moment and really take this in, because by gratitude I mean genuine heartfelt, preferably eyeball-to-eyeball or at least heart-to-heart connection. In other words, delivered with real meaning rather than some perfunctory…”thanks“.

Recognizing what you have and genuinely appreciating it does not have to be built on guilt or the complacency of ; ‘I don’t have the right to ask for more, I’m so much better off than those less fortunate’.

Genuine appreciation can come from stopping and considering all the things that go by each day that can so easily get taken for granted; the smile on a child’s face as they say ‘hello’ or ‘goodbye’ to you.

Getting a call from your partner, friend, sibling, or family member to genuinely ask how you are doing. Being able to breath and smelling the flowers or even coffee.

How about gratitude for having the strength to do what you need to and desire to do.  Or knowing there is someone, somewhere who loves you.  Receiving kindness, whether it was a smile, food, a kind word, a gentle kiss, or even this article.

I’ve been speaking around the world to thousands of people for many years now and I want to stop and say:

This Thanksgiving and everyday, I am grateful for you… Yes, I am talking to you!

If you’ve been following my work at all you already know that I have a dream…

My dream is to raise consciousness. Now you may be saying; “what the heck does that mean?”

Raising consciousness means being able to assist people all over the world in knowing that they are truly powerful, that you have the power to create the life that your heart and soul cries out to live.

I am truly grateful to you because through you I get to live my dream, my purpose, my mission. You, my friends, spiritual family, students and unstoppable team are the fuel that moves me forward. I know that I am the voice of something bigger than myself and you carry that voice

out into the world and in so doing, share in my mission, my dream, my purpose.  I am truly grateful because maybe, just maybe, I have had some influence in waking up your soul, in inspiring your heart, in letting you know you are truly magnificent!

I am grateful to you…You, who are committed to growth. You, who are no longer willing to settle for mediocrity. You, who stand up and fight to be free, even from the prison of your mind.

I believe that the education we offer at Baron Mastery Institute is a way out of the mental emotional jails we can lock ourselves in.

Thank you for inspiring me with your feedback, emails, phone calls, photos,  testimonials, courage, vulnerability and your stories of how your life has changed using the skills, tools and knowledge you received from us at Baron Mastery Institute.

I love taking the time to read and hear them all. They are all fuel in my tank to keep going.

Your work on yourself and your support of our collective mission keeps me believing we can raise the consciousness of this magnificent planet.

Thank you to my beloved bride, best friend and partner, the sweetness in my life and my guru of kindness, my inspiration: Renuka.
Each day I am grateful for her and for the work I did to clear my poop in order to attract this amazing woman into my life more than a decade ago.
Renuka, you are the light in my heart, my greatest inspiration and biggest supporter, you have held me when I could have been crushed and in that moment your love and strength kept me walking my path when I felt crippled…thank you!
May I suggest that once a year, maybe right now:

Take out your pen and journal and write a list of whom and what you are grateful for.

Once you have done that, I would suggest that you  go and buy some thank you cards and write notes of gratitude. At least send an email or make a phone call to those people. (I like cards because some people are uncomfortable taking in gratitude and nobody can interrupt or dismiss written words).

Someone said to me once “it must be wonderful to touch all these people’s lives”.  My reply was and still is that it is wonderful, however, what is equally wonderful is that you touch mine just as much.

Thank you from the depths of everything I am and all I can become.
I look forward to meeting you for the first time or seeing you again soon.

Remember; nothing can crush you unless you allow it…
Aspire to greatness for that is your true nature!
Your value far outweighs your circumstances.

With my love and sincere gratitude,
Dõv…

P.S. I look forward to reading your comments and feedback.

P.P.S. If you found this message valuable, feel free to send this to your friends.

If you don’t feel worthy, if you are carrying shame that was put on you, or you put on yourself, there’s a good chance that you are resonating at a level of being worthless. The result will be that whatever you do for income will likely be a way for you to give of yourself away too cheaply.  This of course is another powerful qualifier of your lack of value and your ego-mind gets to be right, telling you that you’re a victim, and it’s not your fault, there’s nothing you can do about ‘it’.

Bull!

It’s time to step up: Deal with the guilt, shame, and crappy self worth; you are not a victim, unless you decide that’s what you are.

Start by making the decision to forgive yourself, and while you’re at it consider all the people you need to forgive because that’s not adding anything good to your resonance field either.

Very Important Point: Having read the last paragraph again I need to make something crystal clear:

Do not believe all the crap you’ve been feed about forgiving everyone else first, that ‘forgiveness is a holy path’. Here’s why most of the people I’ve met who are preaching this kind of fertilizer are by enlarge emotionally shut down, full of  buried resentment, topped off with a plastic smile.

That my friends is not, never will be, forgiveness.

I do agree that forgiveness can be a holy path, however, it needs to be ‘healthy forgiveness.’

Healthy Forgiveness has a very important level of accountability. In order to truly forgive we must first take full accountability for our part in whatever it was, (That doesn’t mean finding a new reason to beat the crap out of yourself) as well as seeing ‘their’ part in it.

Bottom line; not forgiving doesn’t help you or anyone else, but know this; healthy forgiveness has nothing to do with forgetting. And in truth:

There is no real forgiveness of another until we learn to forgive ourselves. ~Dõv Baron

Carrying around all that guilt, shame and resentment is like carrying an anti abundance shield, so take my advice and dump it like a bad enchilada. It’s up to you, what I want you to know whether you believe it or not, whether you are experiencing it or not, this is an abundant universe.  So drop your abundance shield, forgive yourself and decide what you need to do next. Or to put it another way:

Forgive and Let The Abundance Flow!

I look forward to your comments and feedback.

Until next time live with courage, Dov…

I know you haven’t heard from me in a little while, but we’ve been busy doing some great stuff… We just completed “Attracting Force” last weekend, what a fantastic group of outstanding individuals.

Last night we completed the 5th coaching call for our Members Manifesting program, which means the doors will be opening to new students in less than two weeks. (Keeping watching this blog for details) Wait till you hear what the people who’ve been part of the program have had to say. It’s been a joy!

So now on to the meaty stuff, I want to address some of the rumors that are flying around:

Rumor 1} Yes it’s true I will be out of touch for the next few weeks, but while I’m away we will be uploading some new podcasts for you… All very juicy thought provoking stuff.

Rumor 2} Will there be 2 “Quantum Mind Mastery’s” this year? Well the answer to that one is; maybe. It seems that there are a lot of you who really want to attend “QMM” (particularly as it’s a Prerequisite for attending Quantum Life Mastery later this year) As a result we are looking into if: One, there is enough of you who want to attend and two, If we can shuffle the schedule. This means you will get to be part of a very intimate event with a lot of my personal attention.

Rumor 3} The return of “Deep”. Is it true that I will be presenting “Deep” this year? The answer; YES! We will be posting the web page very soon at which point we will be taking applications. Remember there is a maximum of 20 students allowed into the 7 very intense days of this event. So stay tuned and I’ll keep you informed.

Enjoy the journey,

Dov…

In this podcast we cover;

Why the ego mind struggles to accept change and how you can prepare the ego mind for change in a way that makes it more acceptable. We take a quick but important look at addictions and the overwhelming desire to find depth in an instant gratification culture.

You can hear the words coming out but all too often we’re not sure what any of it means.

What is the truth?

Is it the words someone’s mouth has formed or is it the ears that hear those words? Words can so often be lacking in communicating the real or deeper truth contained within them. In fact only seven percent of all communication is actually the words spoken. None the less that can be a very important seven percent!

It is always prudent to remember that there is no way that the mouth that speaks the words can guarantee that the words the ears hear are the same ones that were spoken.

If an individual ‘hates’ Bush or for that matter any other candidate, does it matter what that candidate says? Or will it always be heard through the filter of ‘hate’?

Some will tell you that ‘truth’ is spoken from the heart and although that is true, even words from that heart cannot pierce the walls of ignorance. Because even though ignorance has ears, its ears are ornamental and deaf to anything but the ‘truth’ the ignorant claims as reality.

What are lies?

Lies are the things we tell ourselves or others that cause pain; however they can also be the things we use to falsely protect ourselves or others.Maybe one of the saddest of lies is the lie between those who love each other. A lie for whatever reason that leaves one feeling betrayed is a lie that runs deep.

The only thing more saddening is the secondhand lie, a lie that is made up based on conclusions that don’t make sense in any other context than a sound byte. The second hand lie is the lie that accuses in the shadows and runs in the background like a thief in the night where it both steals trust and the opportunity for truth.

The secondhand lie makes fact of innuendo and often rips apart those who love each other. The secondhand lie is designed to undermine not only the accused but also those who believed in the accused.

There is in fact only one way to know the truth from a lie… it is to sit in front of the other speaking your truth with an open heart, and just as importantly to hear with ears connected to an equally open heart.

Sadly this is not possible, nor desired by those who busily and often unconsciously protect their ego with the knife of innuendo. People who truly care about each other communicate by speaking and listening with open hearts.

Those who will not do so think that they are protecting themselves from pain, while in fact all they do in the long run is inflict pain upon themselves as much as on others.

The highest agenda of the ego-mind is the need to be right and the ego-mind will sacrifice the truth and even love to protect its’ self.

When Obama, Clinton, McCain, Wright, Bush or even a friend speaks, pay attention not just to what you hear but also the context of what is being spoken. Words without context can be made to mean anything the editor decides, even if the sound byte editor is not in the studio but within your own ego-mind.

It is said that a fanatic will “die for a lie”: But is that really true or is it that they are willing to die for the truth they have made out of a lie?

Truth and Lies are held in the fine line not between right and wrong but instead between what is spoken and what is heard. Many great teachers have left us and in their passing the words they spoke from their hearts have been interpreted by the minds of others and as a result many beautiful truths have become distorted lies that are used for one person or group to control, judge or reject another.

We are not victims of the lies of others; we victimize ourselves when we refuse to understand that each man and each woman stand on the edge of the ground they know as their own truth. Because to paraphrase, (This is what I heard, it’s not necessarily what was said) what Pastor Jeremy Wright said in a press conference on April 28^th 2008, “both the captor and the captive are contained and restricted by the same system and neither are free”.

In every moment that ground of ‘truth’ is crumbling underneath the pressure of those who cling to the need to be right. Be careful how you judge your candidate, your friend, enemy, or anyone you meet. For as the Native American saying goes; unless you have walked a mile in his moccasins do not presume to know why anyone says or does anything.

It has been said that in all lies the truth can be found, but is it not also true that in all truth lies can be found, if that’s what you are looking for?

All meaning is subjective and each one of us has an ego-mind that holds very little claim to its own subjective meaning, because our ego-mind claims the subjective as the ‘truth’ it will both live and die for. The question returns; ‘will you die for a lie’? And maybe an even deeper question is: What will you kill with the subjective meaning you call the truth?

I leave you this time with the words of Paul Simon in the 1968 song, The Boxer: “a man hears what he wants to hear and disregards the rest.”

From the hallway I could hear the muffled sound of the TV in the other room. Curiosity pulled me into that room to find my mother watching our old black and white set. I glanced at the set where I saw a man I didn’t recognize speaking in a way that commanded my attention. As compelling as this man was, there was something else going on in that room that had an even stronger pull… my mother. Looking over at my mom I saw her dislodge her glasses upwards as she wiped a steady stream of tears from her eyes. I had seen my mother cry many times. To be honest at that point in our lives there seemed to be an abundance of reasons for my mom to be in tears, but this was different.

As a ten year old boy seeing my mother cry was something that always disturbed me. I walked over, put my hand on my mom’s shoulder and in an attempt to comfort her I asked what was wrong. Looking up at me, she tried to smile but it wasn’t really working. She stumbled for words and pointed at the TV saying: “He’s dead?” I looked back at the set and the powerful charismatic presence of Martin Luther King Jr. rang out like a bell in the fog.

As a boy living in a ghetto environment of a dirty industrial town, I had no idea why my mother would be crying about a man I didn’t think I’d ever seen before. I didn’t recognize him as a movie star, a pop star or even a politician. Why was she crying? In my boyish naivety I asked “who is this man?” My mom said; “that’s Martin Luther King, someone shot him.” I was still puzzled. My mom continued through a flood of tears and said; “He was a great man, and now he’s dead”.

I became fascinated with finding out who this man had been. I asked my uncle who I considered to be the smartest person I knew and he told me of Martin Luther King’s fight for civil rights; how Dr. King had followed Gandhi’s model of peaceful demonstrations. He told me of all the people black and white people alike who had stood by Dr. King’s side for the civil rights of all people.

April 4^th 1968 was the day I not only became politically aware, it was the day something within my very soul was awakened. I began to grasp the difference this man had made, the impact he had left as a legacy, not just for black people but for all people. That day I began to understand that one person can make a massive positive difference. That day as a naive 10 year old I decided that I wanted to have the same kind of massively powerful impact on humanity that Dr. King had had on humanity, including my mother a Jewish woman living in a place that might have been a million miles away.

I of course, had no idea how I could make that difference; and to be honest, it seemed impossible based on the “facts” of who I was and the environment that surrounded me. I just knew that day that something within me had changed and it would never be the same.

Many people have seen Dr. King’s message as a message about freedom for black people. To me, his message was much deeper than color or creed. It was about the understanding that we are all the same, that at a soul level we are all on a journey, and it’s important to remove the blocks to our spiritual, mental, and emotional evolution. Although we may perceive those blocks as being outside ourselves, the truth is that they would all instantly disappear if we would commit to removing the ones on the inside.

40 years ago today something tragic happened, a great man, a man who will remain a giant, died. I still see some of the injustices he fought against. However, that tragic event gave birth to a flood of awaking and opportunities that has changed the world.

Dr. King’s message is, I believe, even stronger today than it was in the 60’s. Today is a sad day for me because it marks his death. However, I believe it is the strength of our heart’s desire to become the magnificent beings we were born to be that keeps taking this world, (despite what the media feeds us), to a place of knowing that we are all one. Nothing, and I mean nothing, can separate us from the truth of who we truly are… A gift!

Remember this always: You are a gift from the universe, and when you are truly willing to know it, you will become the gift to THE world that you were born to be.

Long live Dr. Martin Luther King, in all our hearts, minds, and actions.

Because we all need to feel significant to somebody we develop ways to cope with by pain by attempting to restore what had been lost or taken away. Some people find significance by being the class/office clown. Some find it in acts of kindness, others in obnoxious behavior. Some find it in material possessions or social status. While others find significance by starting each day deciding who will feel the force of their violent criticism and attack, be it verbal or physical. Still others start their day deciding to make a positive difference. The truth is if you are one of the latter, then the former will likely attack you for your commitment because their cynicism has corroded their belief in either themselves or humanity, most likely both. To that I would say; ‘nil carborundum illegitimi‘.

The bottom line is; we all need a reason to get out of bed in the morning and if you don’t decide to find an uplifting and inspiring reason then you are likely to find a vindictive one.

Each of us start our day in a similar way… we awaken from little or enough sleep to be greeted by a new day. For some that awakening is to a day filled with open possibilities, for others, another day of survival and hopefully avoiding pain.

As some of you know, in June 1990 I fell while mountain climbing and quite literally got smashed to pieces. The recovery was long and grueling. I have been a therapist for more than 20 years (with a short sabbatical to recover from the fall). I still am amazed by the resilience of the human form. Our bodies are magnificent at recovering from the most horrendous of experiences. But recovery on physical level is only one part of healing.

We have all had the experience of knowing someone directly or indirectly who unexpectedly suddenly ended their life. We can all generate an opinion about it; some say it’s a coward’s way out, others say that it’s tragic. However we judge it, often the news comes as a shock. Most of the time, the person who ended their life “seemed” at the very least okay maybe even strong, funny, or successful. These people, famous or not, have left us with the biggest unanswered question of all: Why?

I can still remember back in 1990 the light pushing through the skin of my eyelids with violent persistence that I start a new day, while my mind screamed at full volume; “go away”. At that time a new day meant another very loooooooong day of excruciating pain that I had no certainty that I would be able to cope with it. Prior to that I recall many times where a new day filled me with the potential of more joy, laughter and maybe even some insights and enlightenment. But as I lay there with my back soaked in sweat from contorting my body attempting to ease pain, I yearned to find some peace in the darkness.

During the nearly two years of recovery from the fall, in order to repair my damaged body I had to endure six painful re-constructive surgeries and many more since. The greatest challenge I had to overcome, by far, was my mental and emotional state, which had been crushed to a greater degree than any of my bones.

Within six month those who didn’t know me before the fall would have said that I looked fairly normal. The healing on the outside was very fast, however for almost two years I was never more than a thought away from absolute defeat. Many times I simply wanted to quit life…

Our curious minds searches to answer this “why” question with all kinds of psychological insights about depression, repression or even oppression but the truth is that these people for whatever reason no longer could find a reason to get out of bed in the morning, that dealing with whatever the day would bring would be so much more difficult and painful.

Many times during my recovery I simply wanted to quit life…but my burning desire to fulfill my purpose before I exited this planet nagged me to go another day. As this desire grew I made a series of conscious decisions to transform the pain into fuel – fuel I could use to power the next stage of my journey.

Very recently, I was speaking to a dear friend who has been going through a rough time. Some people around her had decided that it would somehow benefit my friend by tearing her self esteem. It was so devastating that it shook my friend’s foundations, values, and created enormous self doubt. Even though my friend is in no danger of ending her life, this experience has left her in a lot of pain.

During our conversation I felt compelled to ask my friend to find the reason/s she gets out of bed in the morning.

I understand when times are tough it can be hard to remember why we even bother: So I asked my friend to remember a time when they felt totally inspired. What was it about that moment that was so inspiring?

When you feel totally inspired are you thinking of the past? EG: how far you have come, what you have already overcome. Do you think about the future, EG: The difference you can make, the lives you might positively impact, or any number of vast possibilities before you?

When you are feeling totally inspired what do you say to yourself and how do you speak to yourself? Do you tell yourself; you can do it? Maybe you tell yourself that you will not let ‘them’ defeat you; ‘nil carborundum illegitimi‘, (look it up). Do you speak to yourself in a loving and compassionate way or do you speak to yourself in a boot straps kind of tone?

When you are feeling totally inspired what do see? What kind of images do you create in your mind, are they movies or still pictures? Black and white, or color? Are you in the picture or observing the picture?

When you are feeling totally inspired, what are you believing about yourself, your situation, or other people?

And when you are feeling totally inspired what does that feel like in your body?

As the mind becomes focused on each of these elements, it takes the thoughts and produces the emotions you desire. When the thoughts direct the emotions, feelings are generated. This becomes quantum fields of information that broadcasts out into the universe and in turn attracts to you whatever you are broadcasting out. It doesn’t matter if what you are putting out into the quantum field is conscious or unconscious, if it’s going out into the field that is what you will attract. (More details in my EBook: “The Secret Beyond the Law of Attraction” available at http://www.sbloa.com

Each of us have our own versions of “look at me, aren’t I important”. The question is…does yours enhance your life or keep you in your unresolved drama? Does it enhance the lives of others or sweeps them up to multiply your drama? Are you dealing with or just distracting and pacifying your pain? If it’s the latter and you do decide to take the steps to deal with whatever the pain might be for you, the need to ease it by attacking others will go away.

Gandhi said: “An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind”.

I challenge you to ask yourself; “Why do I do what I do? What is my intention? Make a decision about what it is that gets you out of bed in the morning. That way when someone who can’t find a fulfilling enough reason attacks you, the anchor of your soul will remain solid in the emotional storm.