End Bullying!

I am happy to see so many people are stepping into a leadership role with regard to posting blogs, teaching seminars and generally raising awareness about the implications of our children being bullied or becoming bully’s…

That being said: May I suggest that we all take a look at the bigger picture around bullying.

Maybe you yourself have experienced what it feels like to be bullied, not just as a child but even as an adult…

Imagine for a moment that you overheard someone speaking about you, or something you supposedly did.  You know for sure that this person does not really know you, they certainly do not know your circumstances or the true nature of your character.

Nonetheless, here they are using their words to to attack you, your character, or your physicality. In that moment, don’t you feel bullied?

Let’s face it a bully exerts power over someone who feels powerless to do anything about it!

Whether directly or indirectly our words can be used to bully and damage another.

“Sticks and stones can break our bones but gossip really wounds us!” ~Dõv Baron

You know as well as I do that at it’s core bullying  is a process that chips away at the self worth of another, until they feel ashamed and not good enough.

Doing this we dehumanize another and we treat the person being bullied as if they have no soul. In so doing we have moved away from our own true compassionate nature and into soulless behaviour.

When someone who does not truly know you speaks poorly of you or your situation, we call it “harmless gossip”. What I am suggesting is that in order to raise our own awareness as leaders of our families and our communities we need to call it by it true name: bullying! I myself, I am ashamed to say have been guilty of this and I urge you to also consider raising your own awareness around this kind of behaviour.

Let’s remember that everyone from the homeless to the most famous celebrity have a soul. Despite what we hear or are told, let’s remember that we do not ever fully know who someone is or why they did a certain thing at a certain time.

Every time we gossip or add to the gossip about someone we do not personally know, (IE a celebrity) we are in fact bullying…

Isn’t NOW the time to step up to the next level of behavioural awareness? To be a leader who has the courage to NOT do what seems okay, but rather, step into excellence?

Come to the edge, let’s fly!

Claim Your Competitive Edge

Live with courage,

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be a leader in the New Economy…

In a recent article posted here, I said that the central and very necessary cog for doing business in the new economy, is CARING.

In fact I will go so far as to say that there is a big wave coming…Some will be financially overwhelmed by it, and others who get ahead of the wave of relationship based business will be surfing the new economy to affluence.

In that article I went on to say: If you really want to make it in business in this new economy, you need to show people that they are more than just sales figures; they need to know that you are in relationship with them.

After writing that article, I’ve gotten emails from people asking how to do that.  How do you let people know that you care about more than their money?  Some of you went on to say that in my business, it’s easy to be relational because we deal with personal growth and development, which is all about relationships.  You wanted to know how to be more relational if you are in a different kind of business, one that is sales based.  More specifically, you wanted to know how to be more relational if someone comes in and buys two “doomah-hikies” and is in and out of the store in a couple of minutes, how can that be relational?

Let me make something crystal clear: Every time you have an interaction with a person, no matter how short, you are having a relationship with them.

And in that relationship, you have a chance to make the other person feel as if you genuinely care…or not.  Let me share a secret with you:

Every interaction is an opportunity to inspire

Alright get out your pen and paper, write this down, because I’m going to give you five gems that you can use to be more relational in business—any business.

1.  Look at the person when you are dealing with them.  Pay attention to them, not your cell phone or someone standing beside you. For those few minutes, be fully focused on that person and what you are doing with them. (You know for yourself  how frustrating it is to have someone distracted with someone or something else when they should be focused on you.)

2.  Be sincere. When I first moved to North America I was in awe as every time I was in a store people said, “Have a nice day”.  Pretty quick the awe wore off and here’s why: It doesn’t matter who you are, people smell fake quicker than dog poop on their shoe, and we all know when the person saying; “have a nice day”,  couldn’t care less what kind of day we are having. If you can’t say anything else, just say “Thank you” at the end. But most importantly: Mean it!

3.  Make sure the person is as satisfied as they can be. Maybe you or your company don’t have the product or service they need… Are you willing to go the extra mile, to take the extra step and help them find another place to get what they want?  Because that my friend is one piece of what’s needed to do business in the new economy.

4.  Keep your ultimate goal in mind. As much as we all love the “ch-ching” of our own cash register. In the new economy it’s not about just selling another “doomah-hikie”. It’s about making sure the person in front of you thinks of you every time he needs a “doomah-hikie”.  Stated simply; that means making sure that you, as a person, are fully involved with them, as a person.  Keep in mind; it’s not just a business deal, it never was… it’s a relationship.

5.  Do what you have to do, even if there is no immediate pay off for you. I know many people are are going the other way on this because they are in fear of loss and what I can tell you is if you are giving less, you can be pretty sure your fear will become reality. For that reason, I’m telling you in no uncertain terms: Give people more than they expect. Great service in any business is all in the little things. If all you think you are doing is ringing up a sale, you are wrong!  The way you handle the transition, the way you pack the merchandise, even the way you return the receipt can become added value to your customer. You have to be willing to do what it takes to show someone you genuinely care, even if there is nothing in it for you.

Why do these five point matter so very much? Because as I said in the article: “The Real Cost of Doing Business” What I’m talking about here is actually giving a shit about the people you do business with.

I’ve said it before, but I will say it again.

“If you don’t want to be relational, then you my friend, no matter how much money you have, cannot afford the cost of doing business today!”

Because I am fully committed to practicing what I preach, I want to be sure that you leave this interaction knowing that I genuine care about you. “The 5 Foundations of Building Wealth From The Inside Out” is an eBook I wrote, it sells on Amazon for $47, and people have found great value in it. I’m giving it to you for FREE;  it’s a great example of what I’m talking about. Click on the link “The 5 Foundations of Building Wealth From The Inside Out” and accept it as my gift to you.

My question to you, dear reader, and everyone you know who has in some way interacted with us is this: Do you get it that I (Dov Baron) and my company Baron Mastery Institute genuinely care about you… that we genuinely give a shit?

I’d love to hear your feedback about whether you see this as a genuine factor in the new economy. And I would love to hear from you with regards to the question I asked you about me and my company.

I look forward to your feedback and comments

With gratitude,

P.S. Have you heard “The Accidental Guru” Radio Show yet? I’m your host every Friday Morning from 11AM-12 noon (PST) Details are at: http://radiodov.com

Great love and relationships are not built on special occasion flowers, chocolates and great sex alone. 

Sure those things don’t go amiss… however if you are delivering as a special occasion band aid’s that you hope will put you in favor, you should know they are more likely to put you in the dog house.

Did you know: Research shows that many long term relationship come to a crashing halt on Valentines day.  The words may or may not be spoken on that day however, the wheels of the emotional divorce have already began to roll into motion.

In a recent survey more than 80% of the men whose wives asked for a divorce say; they are totally shocked,

they had NO IDEA…

These guys were happy in the same marriage their wife wanted out of!

What does that mean?  Maybe someones not speaking clearly enough, and maybe someones not listening well enough?

Whether we are aware of it or not, we all have a deep and natural craving to feel special to someone else.   Someone who sees us in ways that we wish we could see ourselves.

Very often that’s a big part of why we fall in love…they made you see yourself beyond the limited framework you had held of yourself,  and for that time you began to allow yourself to feel the truth of it.

Whether you are alone or coupled at Valentines, it won’t matter if you don’t have a healthy model for recognizing what you want when it shows up and the skills and tools to keep it…

Below is a video gift I have set up for you, because if you really want your relationship to go to the next level of depth and connection I would highly suggest that you take a look  at applying:

“The 5 Foundations of Building Healthy, Loving Relationships”

Enjoy and please feel free to share this with your friends and leave your feedback.

Happy Valentines:

Isn’t it strange that we need an actual holiday to remind us to be thankful?

I know that many of you who read my articles don’t live in the US and for many, where you live there is no such holiday as ‘Thanksgiving’.  However, wherever you are in the world, please accept my gratitude as you read on you’ll know why I’m specifically talking to you .

I know that at this time of year you’re probably pretty busy however,  I think you will see that by investing a few minutes to read this article will prove well worth your time.
No matter what country you are living in, right now, let me ask you to be honest and answer this question:

How much time do you spend in genuine gratitude?

I’m sure you’ve noticed that very day there seems to be a million new things to do, every day it can seem difficult to slow down enough so you can catch a little down time.  Maybe you turn on the TV to unwind, only to once again be assaulted with the news of doom and gloom.

Most of the time, most people are running around like chickens with their heads cut off doing more and more, while feeling less and less connected, to themselves or anyone else.
The result is that most people are running on empty!
So, in a crazy hectic world what can we do to fill up a little?

Right now let me challenge you to STOP and take a moment to become aware of the blessings in your life.

There is a wonderful ‘new’ movement of interest in manifestation.
Perhaps you have read about it in my books or have heard me talk about it either at a workshop, my podcasts or in a tele-program: Quantum Resonance energy is the necessary ingredient for manifestation.  Well, one of the most powerful quantum energies for manifestation is gratitude.

Okay, you need to stop skimming for a moment and really take this in, because by gratitude I mean genuine heartfelt, preferably eyeball-to-eyeball or at least heart-to-heart connection. In other words, delivered with real meaning rather than some perfunctory…”thanks“.

Recognizing what you have and genuinely appreciating it does not have to be built on guilt or the complacency of ; ‘I don’t have the right to ask for more, I’m so much better off than those less fortunate’.

Genuine appreciation can come from stopping and considering all the things that go by each day that can so easily get taken for granted; the smile on a child’s face as they say ‘hello’ or ‘goodbye’ to you.

Getting a call from your partner, friend, sibling, or family member to genuinely ask how you are doing. Being able to breath and smelling the flowers or even coffee.

How about gratitude for having the strength to do what you need to and desire to do.  Or knowing there is someone, somewhere who loves you.  Receiving kindness, whether it was a smile, food, a kind word, a gentle kiss, or even this article.

I’ve been speaking around the world to thousands of people for many years now and I want to stop and say:

This Thanksgiving and everyday, I am grateful for you… Yes, I am talking to you!

If you’ve been following my work at all you already know that I have a dream…

My dream is to raise consciousness. Now you may be saying; “what the heck does that mean?”

Raising consciousness means being able to assist people all over the world in knowing that they are truly powerful, that you have the power to create the life that your heart and soul cries out to live.

I am truly grateful to you because through you I get to live my dream, my purpose, my mission. You, my friends, spiritual family, students and unstoppable team are the fuel that moves me forward. I know that I am the voice of something bigger than myself and you carry that voice

out into the world and in so doing, share in my mission, my dream, my purpose.  I am truly grateful because maybe, just maybe, I have had some influence in waking up your soul, in inspiring your heart, in letting you know you are truly magnificent!

I am grateful to you…You, who are committed to growth. You, who are no longer willing to settle for mediocrity. You, who stand up and fight to be free, even from the prison of your mind.

I believe that the education we offer at Baron Mastery Institute is a way out of the mental emotional jails we can lock ourselves in.

Thank you for inspiring me with your feedback, emails, phone calls, photos,  testimonials, courage, vulnerability and your stories of how your life has changed using the skills, tools and knowledge you received from us at Baron Mastery Institute.

I love taking the time to read and hear them all. They are all fuel in my tank to keep going.

Your work on yourself and your support of our collective mission keeps me believing we can raise the consciousness of this magnificent planet.

Thank you to my beloved bride, best friend and partner, the sweetness in my life and my guru of kindness, my inspiration: Renuka.
Each day I am grateful for her and for the work I did to clear my poop in order to attract this amazing woman into my life more than a decade ago.
Renuka, you are the light in my heart, my greatest inspiration and biggest supporter, you have held me when I could have been crushed and in that moment your love and strength kept me walking my path when I felt crippled…thank you!
May I suggest that once a year, maybe right now:

Take out your pen and journal and write a list of whom and what you are grateful for.

Once you have done that, I would suggest that you  go and buy some thank you cards and write notes of gratitude. At least send an email or make a phone call to those people. (I like cards because some people are uncomfortable taking in gratitude and nobody can interrupt or dismiss written words).

Someone said to me once “it must be wonderful to touch all these people’s lives”.  My reply was and still is that it is wonderful, however, what is equally wonderful is that you touch mine just as much.

Thank you from the depths of everything I am and all I can become.
I look forward to meeting you for the first time or seeing you again soon.

Remember; nothing can crush you unless you allow it…
Aspire to greatness for that is your true nature!
Your value far outweighs your circumstances.

With my love and sincere gratitude,
Dõv…

P.S. I look forward to reading your comments and feedback.

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If you don’t feel worthy, if you are carrying shame that was put on you, or you put on yourself, there’s a good chance that you are resonating at a level of being worthless. The result will be that whatever you do for income will likely be a way for you to give of yourself away too cheaply.  This of course is another powerful qualifier of your lack of value and your ego-mind gets to be right, telling you that you’re a victim, and it’s not your fault, there’s nothing you can do about ‘it’.

Bull!

It’s time to step up: Deal with the guilt, shame, and crappy self worth; you are not a victim, unless you decide that’s what you are.

Start by making the decision to forgive yourself, and while you’re at it consider all the people you need to forgive because that’s not adding anything good to your resonance field either.

Very Important Point: Having read the last paragraph again I need to make something crystal clear:

Do not believe all the crap you’ve been feed about forgiving everyone else first, that ‘forgiveness is a holy path’. Here’s why most of the people I’ve met who are preaching this kind of fertilizer are by enlarge emotionally shut down, full of  buried resentment, topped off with a plastic smile.

That my friends is not, never will be, forgiveness.

I do agree that forgiveness can be a holy path, however, it needs to be ‘healthy forgiveness.’

Healthy Forgiveness has a very important level of accountability. In order to truly forgive we must first take full accountability for our part in whatever it was, (That doesn’t mean finding a new reason to beat the crap out of yourself) as well as seeing ‘their’ part in it.

Bottom line; not forgiving doesn’t help you or anyone else, but know this; healthy forgiveness has nothing to do with forgetting. And in truth:

There is no real forgiveness of another until we learn to forgive ourselves. ~Dõv Baron

Carrying around all that guilt, shame and resentment is like carrying an anti abundance shield, so take my advice and dump it like a bad enchilada. It’s up to you, what I want you to know whether you believe it or not, whether you are experiencing it or not, this is an abundant universe.  So drop your abundance shield, forgive yourself and decide what you need to do next. Or to put it another way:

Forgive and Let The Abundance Flow!

I look forward to your comments and feedback.

Until next time live with courage, Dov…

That being the case it’s certainly worth our examining the relational foundation of life.  Look, you know as well as I do that almost everyone who has ever been through a relationship will have quite naturally gone through a break-up.  That being said, it’s in your best interest to consider what part you played in the relationship’s end, and when I say relationship break ups,  I am in no way limiting that to romantic relationships.

So, let’s briefly go on a voyage of discovery and peek inside the minds of the people around us for some real life examples of some of the limiting beliefs and behaviors that directly affect relationships.

There’s a good chance that you know at least a handful of people who feel that the people they are surrounded with are not really there for them. You know what I mean, right? You get the impression that they hear what you are saying, but aren’t really listening — that they ‘don’t get you‘.

Maybe sometimes you might feel that you can’t be honest with the people around you because you’re afraid that if you spoke your truth you may hurt their feelings, or end up getting hurt yourself.

I’m curious; have you ever considered how many people are afraid of being honest with themselves because they are scared stiff that the truth would be to painful to face?

Why can it so often be so hard to have honest relationships even with ourselves? Well, keep reading I’ll get to it in a moment, but first….

Let me be straight with you: Relationship, as I said earlier is one of the great foundations of life, and if we don’t master that foundation there is always a sense that something is missing.

One sure-fire way to tell that you have not mastered your relational foundation of life is if you’ve ever felt a certain ‘disconnection’ from the people who surround you. Moreover, there’s a strange feeling that many of your relationships are actually based on obligation — a sense that you must participate ‘or else’– rather than a conscious choice, and this is a massive sign that your relational foundation is out of whack.

I’m sure you can feel that, the people we surround ourselves with have a profound effect on every aspect of our lives, that we are a part of a collective consciousness. Those who surround us affect many areas we don’t consciously think about, including, but not limited too; how we feel about ourselves, how we feel about our circumstances, the decisions we make and what we end up believing we deserve and therefore what we attract into our lives.

One of the most challenging things we can face, is to be on a path of consciousness while having no conscious community…

It’s like trying to stay sober while living in the pub.

To stay committed and connected to your life’s purpose you must surround yourself with a conscious community who get you and also get why personal growth is so important. That community needs to have a collective consciousness that upholds you in a safe place to grow.

This of course is why Baron Mastery University.com was built.  (In case you don’t know, for a short time we are opening the doors to Baron Mastery University.com to invite other conscious and growth oriented individuals in. Just send an email to admin-at-baronmastery.com and put “requesting a BMU.com invitation”  in the subject line.

Back to the Relational Foundation: One of the liberating benefits of mastering your relational foundation is that you happen to find yourself constantly surrounded by loving people who love you: people you respect deeply, and in turn, people who deeply respect you. By mastering your relational foundation you will establish healthy boundaries with everyone around you. You will also have the kind of honest relationships you’ve always wanted with both yourself and with others.

Take a breath because here’s the deal:

Once you are the master of your ego-mind’s fixed ideas about relationships…  you are not willing to put up with any crap!

When you have mastered the relational foundation of life; you don’t put up with being pushed around, and you don’t put up with people trampling all over your boundaries! Not only do you confidently speak your truth, you speak it while being open and compassionately able to hear someone else’s truth without the fear of hurting anyone and without the fear of being personally rejected!

Now come on, be honest, how does that sound? Tell me, how bad do you want to be able to do that and be that way?

One final staggering comment on this foundation. By mastering your relational foundation, you learn to eliminate all fear in relationships so that you can experience love in its fullest form. Need I say more?

Once again this piece is based on The relational foundation of life as featured in my book… “Don’t Read This…your ego won’t like it!” (Which you can find by clicking on the products tab above)

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Leave me your comments and feedback below.
Until next time live with courage, Dov…

P.S. Order  “Don’t Read This…your ego won’t like it!” before the end of August and tell me who you want it signed to and I’ll sign it for you.

“THANK YOU!”

Yesterday we filmed our DVD with a full film crew and a spectacular audience. When I looked out at the crowd of very good looking and high resonance individuals, I saw some faces that were very familiar to me, some faces that I know I’d seen once or twice before and many faces that were new to my eyes. We had local people, people from the states and one person from as far away as Australia.

Each one of those faces brought love to my heart and inspiration to my soul as you stayed focused, stayed connected, took in what we shared and stayed enthusiastic.

All this was done under veeeeery hot studio lights that left many men in shirts that were totally drenched and many ladies had at the very least quite the glistening grow.

I want to let each and everyone of you who were in anyway involved in the making of this DVD how massively grateful I am. I am completely exhausted, exhilarated and steeping in the resonance of gratitude.

Thank you all for being magnificent!

Dov…

I’m excited for everyone who’s already registered for the “Deep” telecasts; two things I can absolutely guarantee; One you’ve never been part of something like this before. And two, you’re going to get some life-changing perspective by completing this tele-series.
I’m already getting feedback from people who were on the live program telling me that they’ve already having breakthroughs and that even in the first module things are getting pretty “Deep”.
Don’t worry if you can’t be “live” on every call, I’m going to post the recording of each call for replay, so you can listen to it when you’re able to. (However, there are many advantages to being on the live tel-casts). Because you will want to give these modules your full attention many people like yourself listen back a couple of times in order to dig and go “Deeper”.
In fact, the tele-series constitutes the first three modules of the “DEEP” workshop, and must be completed by all workshop participants.
So whether you’re able to attend in person or not, you’re able to “eavesdrop” on the first three modules.
It’s my gift to you.
Here are the tele-cast dates, each will be held at 7:15 pm PST (10: 15 pm EST):
Module #1: Monday July 7th : Replay is now up at www.DeepAuthenticSelf.com
Module #2: Monday July 14th
Module #3: Monday July 21th
IMPORTANT!:I’ve also made a link for you to a downloadable PDF of the home assignment questions.
If you haven’t registered, click this link www.DeepAuthenticSelf.com
See you on the next exciting instalment of “Deep”
With Gratitude, Dov…

“Most people’s lives are nothing more than the realization of a promise they made to themselves”

Let’s take this a little deeper…

These promises that we made to ourselves were in all likelihood ‘unconsciously’ chosen and chances are you made them when you were very young. (Although as you read this you may have had a ‘light bulb moment’ and realized exactly when you made your promise and why you did it).

I spend a lot of my time teaching people how to create thier reality. However, what I also say is that most people are creating their realty at a very unconscious level. In fact many of them only get conscious of ‘creating reality’ when something different shows up and they quickly scramble to get things back to “normal”.

Now there’s that fascinating word: “Normal”. For most people reading this you are bright enough to realize that normal is at least somewhat subjective. I n that what’s normal for you may not be normal at all for someone living on a different continent in a completely different culture.

However, ‘normal’ goes much “Deeper” than that. Most people without even knowing it, for the most part are unconsciously busy doing their best to keep things normal. But again please note; the normal I’m speaking about is your own version of normal.

For some people when I say normal they think of the suburban family with two point five kids, a white picket fence and an minivan. But that’s not the kind of normal I am discussing here.

What I’m referring to is your own particular brand of normal. Have you ever heard the saying: “Situation Normal All F*%ked Up?” Well for some people that kind of situation is as indicated, their own brand of ‘normal’. Normal is relative to the individual, as normal as church on Sunday is to one person, smoking crack is to another.

So here’s my challenge to you to bathe in these questions for a while…

What have you made normal that might not be healthy? And…

What promise might you have made to yourself that without you realizing it, is in fact keeping your life pretty much the same as it was?

If you really want to dig deeper on this go and have a look at www.DeepAuthenticSelf.com

Post a comment and let me know what you think.

Dov…