Do we get back in the groove that sets the rut? Or do we set in motion a locomotion of unstoppable resolve?

Now that the door of 2010 has opened do you find yourself hiding in a corner afraid of what’s on the way? Are you there at the brink ready to bolt over the line, feeling your foot come down into the certainty of where you will ride this Tiger of a year, because you have, in advance, taken the time to decide the direction of your 2010 .

Almost everyone gets some level of excitement at the prospect of a New Year, (even if it’s just as a reprieve from the last one). However; entering into anything with merely “hope”, Is a lot less than a plan for success.

What are your Goals and commitments for 2010 ?  Whether your goals and commitments are in the areas of finances, health and fitness, career, or relationships, the question worth asking yourself is: Do you actually want to fulfil yours this year? What if there was a simpler, effortless way to do that?  What if it were as easy as listening to some CDs and writing down your goals? Would you do it?

Before you say it could not possibly be that easy, know this:

You’re Right!

It doesn’t matter how many times you put my Resonating Riches CD program, or EFM Audio Technology or for that matter any program into the CD player, just listening is not ever going to be enough!

But part of what gets in the way of people’s success is that they come to believe that accomplishing goals has to be hard, it has to hurt . However, as thousands have experienced before you, with the right guidance, it could be a heck of a lot easier.

keep reading and you’ll understand how and why…

I want to help you keep your Goals and Commitments this year and avoid the disillusion that comes from setting half-assed goals that don’t really matter, and in fact stand in the way of your complete authentic and joyous success.

As I’ve spoken about in other posts and at some of my leadership programs: It is important to pay attention to our rituals . Much of what we do, we do ritualistically. We do things over and over again and we do them to invoke an outcome . Whether that outcome is a change in our mind state that leads to a hangover or one that leads to greater and greater levels of success , all rituals are about invoking a “preferred state change” either within ourselves or our reality.

There are personal and societal rituals that we make personal. One of those society rituals has been to set “New Years Resolutions .” The purpose of which has been to invoke that “preferred state change” either within ourselves or our reality.

Sadly, all too often many people think that their looks, talents and simply making the resolution will be enough to propel them to higher ground. All too often these are the people whose ”wishful thinking” will have them do little more than splutter over the starter line.

The fact is: Nothing is more common than unsuccessful individuals brimming with talent.

If you have ever set a New Years Resolution or Goals or you know people who have, you are probably wondering: Why do so many people fail when it comes to fulfilling their Goals and New Years Resolutions?

The #1 Reason: First and foremost without even realizing it… Most people are setting goals that are not their own!

I can not make this more simple and I know it seems obvious: Whatever goals or resolutions you set for 2010 make sure they are your own!

Quite simply, take a minute or two and really question your goals… Are they really about you, (who you really are)?  Or are they the goals you are setting in order to be liked a little more by your brothers, sisters, friends, bosses, peers, or even mom and dad?

(By the way, to your ego mind approval is golden, so anyone’s approval will do).

The fact is, anyone can come up with a set of goals that sound right. But it’s worth checking with yourself to truly find out if they are goals aimed at getting approval rather than truly making you happy.

If you are unconsciously setting goals that are not in resonance with who you really are, you are likely to find a way to not reach them or at the very least sabotage the process of reaching them.

A few years ago I was working with a guy we’ll call Paul. Paul at that time was a successful corporate Vice President , who had a goal to buy a particular model of a new Mercedes .

I helped him to get absolutely clear on the specifics of what he wanted: model, year, color of both the exterior and interior and many other details that would make it absolutely real for him. By the time we were done, he could describe the exact sound the air made as it left when the car door closed.

Paul’s ’goal’ was to get the car by March 1st. This was something that was a stretch, but with everything in place it was definitely doable.  March 1st came and went, as did the entire month, and then April and May. When I asked him why he thought he had not manifested what he wanted, he gave me a long list of what he called ‘reasons’ and I called ‘excuses’.

My statement to him was that ‘it’ (the car), clearly didn’t matter enough to him. If it did, he would have done whatever it took to have gotten the car. Paul wanted to argue about it, until I asked him the question I’m now asking you:

Who’s approval do you make up you will get by achieving this goal?

t was like I’d slapped Paul in the face with a wet cod . He was stunned by the list of names that fell out of his mouth. There was a guy at work who had made a snide comment about how he thought Paul was doing better than to be driving what he was presently driving. There was his dad, who had always wanted a Mercedes but had never been able to afford one. There was even some woman he had the hots for ten years ago; she thought Mercedes were sexy.

Do you get it?

Sure, Paul ‘liked’ Mercedes and he certainly wouldn’t mind driving one. But, in truth, there was no genuine passion there ; it was not something that mattered enough to him. The reason Paul didn’t manifest what he ‘desired’ was there was no personal juice to fuel what it would take to bring that thing into his life.

Paul, like most people, had unconsciously set a goal that was more about ‘what other people would think’ than it was about what he truly, soulfully wanted .

If you’re on a few “Self-Help” lists, you’re probably getting a lot of input on how to ‘properly’ set goals for 2010. I am sure they are all full of great stuff, but here are the basics: It is important to have a goal written down. Goals in your head tend to mutate into things that, A) we will never reach or B) we’ll just settle for.

In the words of Mark Victor Hansen (co-author of the “Chicken Soup for the Soul” series)

“Don’t Just Think It, Ink It!”

Listen, this coming year, I predict , will be a defining year for so many people. I believe It will be a year where you will need a better plan, more commitment and a heck of a lot more flexibility . For that reason it is equally important to make your goals and resolutions totally and absolutely have deep personal meaning . When you make that goal or resolution, be specific!

Go into the details , get all your senses involved … What would it look like , sound like, smell like, taste like, feel like to touch , and most important of all what would it feel like, to have ‘it’ in your life?

Whatever your goals are, ask yourself:

• What would my life look like having met this goal?
• Having met this goal what do I hear around me?
• What do I smell?
• What is the taste in my mouth?
• What am I touching now that lets me know I have fulfilled the outcome of my goal?
• What does it feel like to know I have become what I had a goal of becoming?

Now that I’ve given you some of the reasons why so many people fail at achieving their goals , let’s get into the next powerful tip that make achieving your goals a certainty:

Take out a sheet of paper, (I find there is a deeper emotional connection when we write by hand).

Write down as many reasons as you can about “why” you deeply want this specific goal.

What is it that makes having this in your life so important to you?

If you can’t get emotionally charged by what it is you are going for, chances are you will find a way to NOT get it!

It is this directed emotion that sets up the quantum resonance wave that draws to you every opportunity to fulfill your desire . The drive to keep going, to accomplish your goal or resolution is not in the thing itself, it’s the “reasons why” that will power you through the obstacles, (and make no mistake, there will be obstacles.)

Whether it’s personal , business , health, relationship , make the goal specific, and emotionally charged , because that’s what creates compelling goals that pull you towards what you want and what you want towards you!

Having gone through this Goals Blueprint let me ask you to remember:
Whatever you dream of having in life… more money, more romantic and fun relationships, a booming business or fulfilling career… whatever it is… start your journey today toward making your New Years Goals a reality in 2010.

Start now!

Take out your pen and paper and begin applying what I’ve given you in this blueprint that Makes Achieving Your Goals a Certainty .

Hey, if you enjoyed this post or other posts re-blog it, share it with others or you can subscribe at the top of the page and feel free to send friends here too.  Please leave me your comments and feedback below.

I look forward to seeing you in 2010.

With Gratitude,

Dov…

Let me ask you: When the door of 2009 opens will you be hiding in a corner afraid of what’s on the way? Will you be there with running shoes on ready to bolt into a new year? Or will you step over the line, feeling your foot come down into the certainty of where you will ride this Ox of a year, because you have, in advance, taken the time to decide the direction of your 2009 .

Almost everyone gets some level of excitement at the prospect of a New Year, (even if it’s just as a reprieve from the last one). However; entering into anything with merely “hope”, Is a lot less than a plan for success.

What are your Goals and New Year’s Resolutions for 2009 ?  Whether your goals and resolutions are in the areas of finances, health and fitness, career, or relationships, the question worth asking yourself is: Do you actually want to keep yours this year? What if there was a simpler, effortless way to do that?  What if it were as easy as listening to some CDs and writing down your goals? Would you do it?

Before you say it could not possibly be that easy, know this:

You’re Right!

It doesn’t matter how many times you put my Resonating Riches CD program , or EFM Audio Technology or for that matter any program into the CD player, just listening is not ever going to be enough!

But part of what gets in the way of people’s success is that they come to believe that accomplishing goals has to be hard, it has to hurt . However, as thousands have experienced before you, with the right guidance, nothing could be further from the truth.

Please keep reading to understand how and why…

I want to help you keep your resolutions this year and avoid the disillusion that comes from setting half-assed goals and resolutions that don’t really matter, and in fact stand in the way of your complete authentic and joyous success.

As I spoke about in my last post; it’s important to pay attention to our rituals . Much of what we do, we do ritualistically. We do things over and over again and we do them to invoke an outcome . Whether that outcome is a change in our mind state that leads to a hangover or one that leads to greater and greater levels of success , all rituals are about invoking a “preferred state change” either within ourselves or our reality.

There are personal and societal rituals that we make personal. One of those society rituals has been to set “New Years Resolutions .” The purpose of which has been to invoke a “preferred state change” either within ourselves or our reality.

Sadly, all too often many people think that their looks, talents and simply making the resolution will be enough to propel them to higher ground. All too often these are the people whose ”wishful thinking” will have them do little more than splutter over the starter line.

The fact is: Nothing is more common than unsuccessful individuals brimming with talent.

If you have ever set a New Years Resolution or you know people who have, you are probably wondering: Why do so many people fail when it comes to fulfilling their New Years Resolutions?

The #1Reason: First and foremost without even realizing it… Most people are setting goals and making resolutions that are not their own!

I can not make this more simple and I know it seems obvious: Whatever goals or resolutions you set for 2009 make sure they are your own!

Quite simply, take a minute or two and really question your goals and your resolutions… Are they really about you, (who you really are)?  Or are they the goals and resolutions you are setting in order to be liked a little more by your brothers, sisters, friends, bosses, peers, or even mom and dad?

(By the way, to your ego mind approval is golden, so anyone’s will do).

The fact is, anyone can come up with a set of goals and resolutions that sound right. But it’s worth checking with yourself to truly find out if they are goals and resolutions aimed at getting approval rather than truly making you happy.

If you are unconsciously setting goals or resolutions that are not in resonance with who you really are, you are likely to find a way to not reach them or at the very least sabotage the process of reaching them.

See for yourself..: A few years ago I was working with a guy we’ll call Paul. Paul at that time was a successful corporate Vice President , who had a goal to buy a particular model of a new Mercedes .

I helped him to get absolutely clear on the specifics of what he wanted: model, year, color of both the exterior and interior and many other details that would make it absolutely real for him. By the time we were done, he could describe the exact sound the air made as it left when the car door closed.

Paul’s ’goal’ was to get the car by March 1st. This was something that was a stretch, but with everything in place it was definitely doable.  March 1st came and went, as did the entire month, and then April and May. When I asked him why he thought he had not manifested what he wanted, he gave me a long list of what he called ‘reasons’ and I called ‘excuses’.

My statement to him was that ‘it’ (the car), clearly didn’t matter enough to him. If it did, he would have done whatever it took to have gotten the car. Paul wanted to argue about it, until I asked him the question I’m now asking you:

Who’s approval do you make up you will get by achieving this goal?

It was like I’d slapped Paul in the face with a wet cod . He was stunned by the list of names that fell out of his mouth. There was a guy at work who had made a snide comment about how he thought Paul was doing better than to be driving what he was presently driving. There was his dad, who had always wanted a Mercedes but had never been able to afford one. There was even some woman he had the hots for ten years ago; she thought Mercedes were sexy.

Do you get it?

Sure, Paul ‘liked’ Mercedes and he certainly wouldn’t mind driving one. But, in truth, there was no genuine passion there ; it was not something that mattered enough to him. The reason Paul didn’t manifest what he ‘desired’ was there was no personal juice to fuel what it would take to bring that thing into his life.

Paul, like most people, had unconsciously set a goal that was more about ‘what other people would think’ than it was about what he truly, soulfully wanted .

If you’re on a few “Self-Help” lists, you’re probably getting a lot of input on how to ‘properly’ set goals for 2009 . I am sure they are all full of great stuff, but here are the basics: It is important to have a goal written down. Goals in your head tend to mutate into things that, A) we will never reach or B) we’ll just settle for.

In the words of Mark Victor Hansen (co-author of the “Chicken Soup for the Soul” series)

“Don’t Just Think It, Ink It!”

Listen, this coming year, I predict , will be a defining year for so many people. I believe It will be a year where you will need a better plan, more commitment and a heck of a lot more flexibility . For that reason it is equally important to make your goals and resolutions totally and absolutely have deep personal meaning . When you make that goal or resolution, be specific!

Go into the details , get all your senses involved … What would it look like , sound like, smell like, taste like, feel like to touch , and most important of all what would it feel like, to have ‘it’ in your life?

Whether it’s a goal or a resolution, ask yourself:
• What would my life look like having met this goal/resolution?
• Having met this goal/resolution what do I hear around me?
• What do I smell?
• What is the taste in my mouth?
• What am I touching now that lets me know I have fulfilled my resolution?
• What does it feel like to know I have become what I have resolved to become?

Now that I’ve given you some of the reasons why so many people fail at achieving their goals , let’s get into the next powerful tip that makes achieving your goals and resolutions a certainty:

Take out a sheet of paper, (I find there is a deeper emotional connection when we write by hand).

Write down as many reasons as you can about “why” you deeply want this specific goal or resolution.

What is it that makes having this in your life so important to you?

If you can’t get emotionally charged by what it is you are going for, chances are you will find a way to NOT get it!

It is this directed emotion that sets up the quantum resonance wave that draws to you every opportunity to fulfill your desire . The drive to keep going, to accomplish your goal or resolution is not in the thing itself, it’s the “reasons why” that will power you through the obstac les, (and there will be obstacles, make no mistake).

So, whether it’s personal , business , health, relationship , make the goal specific, and emotionally charged , because that’s what creates compelling goals that pull you towards what you want and what you want towards you!

So having gone through this Resolution Blueprint let me ask you to remember:

Whatever you dream of having in life… more money, more romantic and fun relationships, a booming business or fulfilling career… whatever it is… start your journey today toward making your New Years Resolutions and Goals a reality in 2009.

Start now!

Take out your pen and paper and begin applying what I’ve given you in this blueprint that Makes Achieving Your Goals and resolutions a Certainty .

Hey, if you enjoyed this post or other posts you can subscribe at the top left-hand side of the page and feel free to send friends here too.  Please leave me your comments and feedback below.

I look forward to seeing you in 2009.

With Gratitude,

Dov…

So in the name of such endeavours: Put your feet up, grab a bevy, give yourself a couple of minutes and I’ll share with you how to have a more authentic “holiday season’:

Whether we are saying a politically correct “Happy Holidays ” or a supposedly less correct “Merry Christmas “ (Small side bar: From my point of view, the whole PC thing has turned the holidays and many other things into a ‘christMESS’).

In the words of psychologist and comedian David Grainer,

“The holidays; a time when dysfunctional families obligationally get together to piss each other off.”

Of course, that’s not necessarily true for everyone, but it sure is for many.

Okay, back on track: Why do we get together at this time of year? 

Christmas can be so many things to so many people; for some it’s wonderful and for others.. not so much.  To me, there’s not much that is more heartwarming than watching the excitement on a small child’s face on Christmas morning. It’s almost as if excitement is literally leaking out of every pore. It’s a sight that infects and lifts even the saddest soul.

But let’s face it, outside of that, there can be meeting with people who very often you wouldn’t spend time with under any other circumstances. And then the buying of Christmas gifts has become about competitive, obligational consumerism. And even though we may be becoming more conscious and we promise ourselves we won’t swallow the consumer pill… year after year – we do .

If I sound a bit pessimistic about this time of year, it’s because I think we all need to examine the unconscious rituals we subscribe to and why. Take for instance Shopping: For most people, the competitive, obligational consumerism that has been rammed down our throats all too often chokes the goodwill out of heart felt gift giving. In turn robing us of the true joy of giving.

Here’s the scary part: Think about it…This year, how many gifts did you/will you, give out of obligation?

I know it’s a tough question, but it is worth thinking about. Here’s a clue into knowing the difference between an obligational gift verses one that came from the heart:

If you had a magic wand that would instantly remove the guilt from yourself or judgment from others, how many of the gifts you gave this past Christmas would you actually have chosen NOT to give?

It comes down to this: The only way to treat this disease is step into a level of Quantum Mind Mastery by asking yourself powerful self penatrating question: Why have I made what other people think of me so important?

WWTT is an acronym for ‘What Will They Think?’

Here’s what you will want to know: Most of the time, most people don’t think!

The answer – I think you will agree – are those who stand up for what they believe in. Those who own their trust, and are willing to face rejection rather than be inauthentic. People like Martin Luther King, Gandhi, even the Dixie Chicks.

So, stop for a moment and think about what this means…

The only way to be genuinely liked – or, for that matter loved, is to stand in your truth.
Here’s one of my quotes on the subject:

Those who are committed to being liked by everyone will never know genuine love from anyone.”

In the next post I’ll talk about New years resolutions and goal setting.

Have a wonderful guilt free holiday season, Dov…