Let me ask you: When the door of 2009 opens will you be hiding in a corner afraid of what’s on the way? Will you be there with running shoes on ready to bolt into a new year? Or will you step over the line, feeling your foot come down into the certainty of where you will ride this Ox of a year, because you have, in advance, taken the time to decide the direction of your 2009 .

Almost everyone gets some level of excitement at the prospect of a New Year, (even if it’s just as a reprieve from the last one). However; entering into anything with merely “hope”, Is a lot less than a plan for success.

What are your Goals and New Year’s Resolutions for 2009 ?  Whether your goals and resolutions are in the areas of finances, health and fitness, career, or relationships, the question worth asking yourself is: Do you actually want to keep yours this year? What if there was a simpler, effortless way to do that?  What if it were as easy as listening to some CDs and writing down your goals? Would you do it?

Before you say it could not possibly be that easy, know this:

You’re Right!

It doesn’t matter how many times you put my Resonating Riches CD program , or EFM Audio Technology or for that matter any program into the CD player, just listening is not ever going to be enough!

But part of what gets in the way of people’s success is that they come to believe that accomplishing goals has to be hard, it has to hurt . However, as thousands have experienced before you, with the right guidance, nothing could be further from the truth.

Please keep reading to understand how and why…

I want to help you keep your resolutions this year and avoid the disillusion that comes from setting half-assed goals and resolutions that don’t really matter, and in fact stand in the way of your complete authentic and joyous success.

As I spoke about in my last post; it’s important to pay attention to our rituals . Much of what we do, we do ritualistically. We do things over and over again and we do them to invoke an outcome . Whether that outcome is a change in our mind state that leads to a hangover or one that leads to greater and greater levels of success , all rituals are about invoking a “preferred state change” either within ourselves or our reality.

There are personal and societal rituals that we make personal. One of those society rituals has been to set “New Years Resolutions .” The purpose of which has been to invoke a “preferred state change” either within ourselves or our reality.

Sadly, all too often many people think that their looks, talents and simply making the resolution will be enough to propel them to higher ground. All too often these are the people whose ”wishful thinking” will have them do little more than splutter over the starter line.

The fact is: Nothing is more common than unsuccessful individuals brimming with talent.

If you have ever set a New Years Resolution or you know people who have, you are probably wondering: Why do so many people fail when it comes to fulfilling their New Years Resolutions?

The #1Reason: First and foremost without even realizing it… Most people are setting goals and making resolutions that are not their own!

I can not make this more simple and I know it seems obvious: Whatever goals or resolutions you set for 2009 make sure they are your own!

Quite simply, take a minute or two and really question your goals and your resolutions… Are they really about you, (who you really are)?  Or are they the goals and resolutions you are setting in order to be liked a little more by your brothers, sisters, friends, bosses, peers, or even mom and dad?

(By the way, to your ego mind approval is golden, so anyone’s will do).

The fact is, anyone can come up with a set of goals and resolutions that sound right. But it’s worth checking with yourself to truly find out if they are goals and resolutions aimed at getting approval rather than truly making you happy.

If you are unconsciously setting goals or resolutions that are not in resonance with who you really are, you are likely to find a way to not reach them or at the very least sabotage the process of reaching them.

See for yourself..: A few years ago I was working with a guy we’ll call Paul. Paul at that time was a successful corporate Vice President , who had a goal to buy a particular model of a new Mercedes .

I helped him to get absolutely clear on the specifics of what he wanted: model, year, color of both the exterior and interior and many other details that would make it absolutely real for him. By the time we were done, he could describe the exact sound the air made as it left when the car door closed.

Paul’s ’goal’ was to get the car by March 1st. This was something that was a stretch, but with everything in place it was definitely doable.  March 1st came and went, as did the entire month, and then April and May. When I asked him why he thought he had not manifested what he wanted, he gave me a long list of what he called ‘reasons’ and I called ‘excuses’.

My statement to him was that ‘it’ (the car), clearly didn’t matter enough to him. If it did, he would have done whatever it took to have gotten the car. Paul wanted to argue about it, until I asked him the question I’m now asking you:

Who’s approval do you make up you will get by achieving this goal?

It was like I’d slapped Paul in the face with a wet cod . He was stunned by the list of names that fell out of his mouth. There was a guy at work who had made a snide comment about how he thought Paul was doing better than to be driving what he was presently driving. There was his dad, who had always wanted a Mercedes but had never been able to afford one. There was even some woman he had the hots for ten years ago; she thought Mercedes were sexy.

Do you get it?

Sure, Paul ‘liked’ Mercedes and he certainly wouldn’t mind driving one. But, in truth, there was no genuine passion there ; it was not something that mattered enough to him. The reason Paul didn’t manifest what he ‘desired’ was there was no personal juice to fuel what it would take to bring that thing into his life.

Paul, like most people, had unconsciously set a goal that was more about ‘what other people would think’ than it was about what he truly, soulfully wanted .

If you’re on a few “Self-Help” lists, you’re probably getting a lot of input on how to ‘properly’ set goals for 2009 . I am sure they are all full of great stuff, but here are the basics: It is important to have a goal written down. Goals in your head tend to mutate into things that, A) we will never reach or B) we’ll just settle for.

In the words of Mark Victor Hansen (co-author of the “Chicken Soup for the Soul” series)

“Don’t Just Think It, Ink It!”

Listen, this coming year, I predict , will be a defining year for so many people. I believe It will be a year where you will need a better plan, more commitment and a heck of a lot more flexibility . For that reason it is equally important to make your goals and resolutions totally and absolutely have deep personal meaning . When you make that goal or resolution, be specific!

Go into the details , get all your senses involved … What would it look like , sound like, smell like, taste like, feel like to touch , and most important of all what would it feel like, to have ‘it’ in your life?

Whether it’s a goal or a resolution, ask yourself:
• What would my life look like having met this goal/resolution?
• Having met this goal/resolution what do I hear around me?
• What do I smell?
• What is the taste in my mouth?
• What am I touching now that lets me know I have fulfilled my resolution?
• What does it feel like to know I have become what I have resolved to become?

Now that I’ve given you some of the reasons why so many people fail at achieving their goals , let’s get into the next powerful tip that makes achieving your goals and resolutions a certainty:

Take out a sheet of paper, (I find there is a deeper emotional connection when we write by hand).

Write down as many reasons as you can about “why” you deeply want this specific goal or resolution.

What is it that makes having this in your life so important to you?

If you can’t get emotionally charged by what it is you are going for, chances are you will find a way to NOT get it!

It is this directed emotion that sets up the quantum resonance wave that draws to you every opportunity to fulfill your desire . The drive to keep going, to accomplish your goal or resolution is not in the thing itself, it’s the “reasons why” that will power you through the obstac les, (and there will be obstacles, make no mistake).

So, whether it’s personal , business , health, relationship , make the goal specific, and emotionally charged , because that’s what creates compelling goals that pull you towards what you want and what you want towards you!

So having gone through this Resolution Blueprint let me ask you to remember:

Whatever you dream of having in life… more money, more romantic and fun relationships, a booming business or fulfilling career… whatever it is… start your journey today toward making your New Years Resolutions and Goals a reality in 2009.

Start now!

Take out your pen and paper and begin applying what I’ve given you in this blueprint that Makes Achieving Your Goals and resolutions a Certainty .

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I look forward to seeing you in 2009.

With Gratitude,

Dov…

“Most people’s lives are nothing more than the realization of a promise they made to themselves”

Let’s take this a little deeper…

These promises that we made to ourselves were in all likelihood ‘unconsciously’ chosen and chances are you made them when you were very young. (Although as you read this you may have had a ‘light bulb moment’ and realized exactly when you made your promise and why you did it).

I spend a lot of my time teaching people how to create thier reality. However, what I also say is that most people are creating their realty at a very unconscious level. In fact many of them only get conscious of ‘creating reality’ when something different shows up and they quickly scramble to get things back to “normal”.

Now there’s that fascinating word: “Normal”. For most people reading this you are bright enough to realize that normal is at least somewhat subjective. I n that what’s normal for you may not be normal at all for someone living on a different continent in a completely different culture.

However, ‘normal’ goes much “Deeper” than that. Most people without even knowing it, for the most part are unconsciously busy doing their best to keep things normal. But again please note; the normal I’m speaking about is your own version of normal.

For some people when I say normal they think of the suburban family with two point five kids, a white picket fence and an minivan. But that’s not the kind of normal I am discussing here.

What I’m referring to is your own particular brand of normal. Have you ever heard the saying: “Situation Normal All F*%ked Up?” Well for some people that kind of situation is as indicated, their own brand of ‘normal’. Normal is relative to the individual, as normal as church on Sunday is to one person, smoking crack is to another.

So here’s my challenge to you to bathe in these questions for a while…

What have you made normal that might not be healthy? And…

What promise might you have made to yourself that without you realizing it, is in fact keeping your life pretty much the same as it was?

If you really want to dig deeper on this go and have a look at www.DeepAuthenticSelf.com

Post a comment and let me know what you think.

Dov…

The truth is and I’m sure you know it too… there are all kinds of people out there who say they want to change, and sure they “think” they do, but they don’t really.

How do I know?.. Because they are not willing to do what it takes to change!

With close to 25 years of doing this work what I have found most common is that people say they want to change as long as it doesn’t interfere with, or inconvenience them to much. The truth is:

“people want to change as long as they don’t have to change”.

But here’s the news: You do know what’s going on underneath! You can fool some of the people some of the time, heck you can even fool yourself some of the time.

But the truth is in your quiet moments you know when the time has come and you are either going to box yourself into a deeper and deeper level of numb, where not only your sadness and pain get buried in your body but, so does any chance of true joy, fulfillment and happiness…

Or you’re on a steady slope into your own personal version of hell, where it will eventually get so painful that you will move mountains in order to change. (I know that I’ve done both and you don’t have to do either)

I challenge you to decide because, today you stand at the crossroads. You can let your ego tell you that I’m an ass for saying this, that I’m only in it for the money or some other crap about how it’s not that bad.

But the truth is. I do care. I care very deeply, in fact I care so deeply that I’m willing to tell you the truth. And like it says on www.DeepAuthenticSelf.com “The truth hurts… But it also sets you free”

Let me know what you think below

You can spend a lifetime committed to excellence, and in the eyes of many you can achieve it, only to remain unfulfilled until You…

Discover and Connect With Your “DEEP Authentic Self!”™

Many of you have heard whispers about this program and have wanted to know more, however up until now we were not letting anyone know too much…
You’ll understand why in a minute. This is the fully immerse “Deep Authentic Self”™ program, that will teach you how to discover, understand and neutralize the emotional triggers that are directing your life… while addressing that gut-level feeling that tells you, (despite all your success so far), that there’s still something missing.

I want you to make a very informed decision if you’re going to apply for admission into the workshop experience … Why? Because I can only accept a very limited number of participants (22 in total).

With so few spaces available, I can’t afford to admit anyone who isn’t 100% committed to taking full advantage of this opportunity. (Simply writing a check will NOT get you in).

There’s something else that’s very different about the “Deep Authentic Self”™ Workshop, and that is this; the first three modules will be delivered via webcast we are making them available to EVERYONE at NO-COST, just register at http://www.DeepAuthenticSelf.com

Module #1 for “Deep Authentic Self”™
Monday, July 7, 2008

However, as I’m sure you are aware, there are some things that money just can’t buy … and entry into my long awaited “DEEP” Program (Vancouver, September 8-14 ) is one of them.

I know, this might sound a bit strange, but your money won’t get you in. I’ll explain… However to do so, I need to go back about 8 years. You see, that was the first time I held this workshop (and only once since) – primarily because I subsequently used the material as the foundation for my premier individual coaching program The QRF Program.

The QRF is the most powerful program I offer and it’s also the most expensive at $50,000. It’s a very limited program (5 people per year) and every participant must pass a stringent qualifying process.
You see, with so few positions available each year, I have to make sure that every space is going to be filled with someone who is absolutely committed to maximizing their personal development, and who will follow through and take advantage of the transformational opportunity that the QRF represents.

Now, consider the “DEEP” Workshop again because…

For the second time in 8 years I’m going to open this extremely powerful workshop to a maximum select group of no more than 22 individuals. Why 22 you might ask?
Because that’s the absolute maximum number of people I can facilitate through such an intensive program.

To give you an idea of what that week is going to take out of me energetically … I won’t schedule anything for the week afterwards, I’ll be recharging my batteries!

So, I guess it’d be fair to describe DEEP as the next best thing to doing your own QRF Program with me … and you get to do it at a fraction of the price. However, many of the rules from the QRF Program still apply here, and that means …

You must convince me you’re ready to participate…

That means you need to send me an application via http://www.DeepAuthenticSelf.com indicating why you should be admitted into the program, and precisely why you’re committed to following through with
the process after the 7 day event is over.

Now, there are a couple of things I want to make clear before you send in your application.

1. Tuition, there are no early-bird discounts for this program. (many of the people who attended the last one started out saying they couldn’t afford to attend and now 2 years later say it was the best investment of their lives.
Don’t take my word for it go to http://www.DeepAuthenticSelf.com and take a look for yourself.

2. I will not be holding another DEEP Workshop for at least two years (and it will never be offered at this price again).

And finally, it’s very important tome that you understand something about the application process, and that is – it’s not personal.

You may have done lots of personal development, you may have recently completed one of my other programs, yet find that your application isn’t accepted into DEEP, and wonder why.

The answer is because I have to select a group of 22 who can maintain a similar pace of learning through a very intense workshop experience.

If I don’t think you can do this, then I’m not going to put you in a situation where you feel like you’re holding up the group .. or where the group is waiting for you. I’m sure you can appreciate that.

To be considered for admission into the “DEEP” program, please go to http://www.DeepAuthenticSelf.com (I’ll review every application personally).

I look forward to hearing from you.

~ Dov…

I know you haven’t heard from me in a little while, but we’ve been busy doing some great stuff… We just completed “Attracting Force” last weekend, what a fantastic group of outstanding individuals.

Last night we completed the 5th coaching call for our Members Manifesting program, which means the doors will be opening to new students in less than two weeks. (Keeping watching this blog for details) Wait till you hear what the people who’ve been part of the program have had to say. It’s been a joy!

So now on to the meaty stuff, I want to address some of the rumors that are flying around:

Rumor 1} Yes it’s true I will be out of touch for the next few weeks, but while I’m away we will be uploading some new podcasts for you… All very juicy thought provoking stuff.

Rumor 2} Will there be 2 “Quantum Mind Mastery’s” this year? Well the answer to that one is; maybe. It seems that there are a lot of you who really want to attend “QMM” (particularly as it’s a Prerequisite for attending Quantum Life Mastery later this year) As a result we are looking into if: One, there is enough of you who want to attend and two, If we can shuffle the schedule. This means you will get to be part of a very intimate event with a lot of my personal attention.

Rumor 3} The return of “Deep”. Is it true that I will be presenting “Deep” this year? The answer; YES! We will be posting the web page very soon at which point we will be taking applications. Remember there is a maximum of 20 students allowed into the 7 very intense days of this event. So stay tuned and I’ll keep you informed.

Enjoy the journey,

Dov…

In this Podcast we also discuss; getting out of the box, one of my all time favorite teachers and his books, and why the people who are supporting your ‘reality’ may not be the best people for you. All this in around 15 minutes.

Hit the link, then the BLUE play arrow and enjoy! The 3 most dangerous words Then leave me your feedback because “I am Listening”

In this podcast we cover;

Why the ego mind struggles to accept change and how you can prepare the ego mind for change in a way that makes it more acceptable. We take a quick but important look at addictions and the overwhelming desire to find depth in an instant gratification culture.

You can hear the words coming out but all too often we’re not sure what any of it means.

What is the truth?

Is it the words someone’s mouth has formed or is it the ears that hear those words? Words can so often be lacking in communicating the real or deeper truth contained within them. In fact only seven percent of all communication is actually the words spoken. None the less that can be a very important seven percent!

It is always prudent to remember that there is no way that the mouth that speaks the words can guarantee that the words the ears hear are the same ones that were spoken.

If an individual ‘hates’ Bush or for that matter any other candidate, does it matter what that candidate says? Or will it always be heard through the filter of ‘hate’?

Some will tell you that ‘truth’ is spoken from the heart and although that is true, even words from that heart cannot pierce the walls of ignorance. Because even though ignorance has ears, its ears are ornamental and deaf to anything but the ‘truth’ the ignorant claims as reality.

What are lies?

Lies are the things we tell ourselves or others that cause pain; however they can also be the things we use to falsely protect ourselves or others.Maybe one of the saddest of lies is the lie between those who love each other. A lie for whatever reason that leaves one feeling betrayed is a lie that runs deep.

The only thing more saddening is the secondhand lie, a lie that is made up based on conclusions that don’t make sense in any other context than a sound byte. The second hand lie is the lie that accuses in the shadows and runs in the background like a thief in the night where it both steals trust and the opportunity for truth.

The secondhand lie makes fact of innuendo and often rips apart those who love each other. The secondhand lie is designed to undermine not only the accused but also those who believed in the accused.

There is in fact only one way to know the truth from a lie… it is to sit in front of the other speaking your truth with an open heart, and just as importantly to hear with ears connected to an equally open heart.

Sadly this is not possible, nor desired by those who busily and often unconsciously protect their ego with the knife of innuendo. People who truly care about each other communicate by speaking and listening with open hearts.

Those who will not do so think that they are protecting themselves from pain, while in fact all they do in the long run is inflict pain upon themselves as much as on others.

The highest agenda of the ego-mind is the need to be right and the ego-mind will sacrifice the truth and even love to protect its’ self.

When Obama, Clinton, McCain, Wright, Bush or even a friend speaks, pay attention not just to what you hear but also the context of what is being spoken. Words without context can be made to mean anything the editor decides, even if the sound byte editor is not in the studio but within your own ego-mind.

It is said that a fanatic will “die for a lie”: But is that really true or is it that they are willing to die for the truth they have made out of a lie?

Truth and Lies are held in the fine line not between right and wrong but instead between what is spoken and what is heard. Many great teachers have left us and in their passing the words they spoke from their hearts have been interpreted by the minds of others and as a result many beautiful truths have become distorted lies that are used for one person or group to control, judge or reject another.

We are not victims of the lies of others; we victimize ourselves when we refuse to understand that each man and each woman stand on the edge of the ground they know as their own truth. Because to paraphrase, (This is what I heard, it’s not necessarily what was said) what Pastor Jeremy Wright said in a press conference on April 28^th 2008, “both the captor and the captive are contained and restricted by the same system and neither are free”.

In every moment that ground of ‘truth’ is crumbling underneath the pressure of those who cling to the need to be right. Be careful how you judge your candidate, your friend, enemy, or anyone you meet. For as the Native American saying goes; unless you have walked a mile in his moccasins do not presume to know why anyone says or does anything.

It has been said that in all lies the truth can be found, but is it not also true that in all truth lies can be found, if that’s what you are looking for?

All meaning is subjective and each one of us has an ego-mind that holds very little claim to its own subjective meaning, because our ego-mind claims the subjective as the ‘truth’ it will both live and die for. The question returns; ‘will you die for a lie’? And maybe an even deeper question is: What will you kill with the subjective meaning you call the truth?

I leave you this time with the words of Paul Simon in the 1968 song, The Boxer: “a man hears what he wants to hear and disregards the rest.”