That being the case it’s certainly worth our examining the relational foundation of life.  Look, you know as well as I do that almost everyone who has ever been through a relationship will have quite naturally gone through a break-up.  That being said, it’s in your best interest to consider what part you played in the relationship’s end, and when I say relationship break ups,  I am in no way limiting that to romantic relationships.

So, let’s briefly go on a voyage of discovery and peek inside the minds of the people around us for some real life examples of some of the limiting beliefs and behaviors that directly affect relationships.

There’s a good chance that you know at least a handful of people who feel that the people they are surrounded with are not really there for them. You know what I mean, right? You get the impression that they hear what you are saying, but aren’t really listening — that they ‘don’t get you‘.

Maybe sometimes you might feel that you can’t be honest with the people around you because you’re afraid that if you spoke your truth you may hurt their feelings, or end up getting hurt yourself.

I’m curious; have you ever considered how many people are afraid of being honest with themselves because they are scared stiff that the truth would be to painful to face?

Why can it so often be so hard to have honest relationships even with ourselves? Well, keep reading I’ll get to it in a moment, but first….

Let me be straight with you: Relationship, as I said earlier is one of the great foundations of life, and if we don’t master that foundation there is always a sense that something is missing.

One sure-fire way to tell that you have not mastered your relational foundation of life is if you’ve ever felt a certain ‘disconnection’ from the people who surround you. Moreover, there’s a strange feeling that many of your relationships are actually based on obligation — a sense that you must participate ‘or else’– rather than a conscious choice, and this is a massive sign that your relational foundation is out of whack.

I’m sure you can feel that, the people we surround ourselves with have a profound effect on every aspect of our lives, that we are a part of a collective consciousness. Those who surround us affect many areas we don’t consciously think about, including, but not limited too; how we feel about ourselves, how we feel about our circumstances, the decisions we make and what we end up believing we deserve and therefore what we attract into our lives.

One of the most challenging things we can face, is to be on a path of consciousness while having no conscious community…

It’s like trying to stay sober while living in the pub.

To stay committed and connected to your life’s purpose you must surround yourself with a conscious community who get you and also get why personal growth is so important. That community needs to have a collective consciousness that upholds you in a safe place to grow.

This of course is why Baron Mastery University.com was built.  (In case you don’t know, for a short time we are opening the doors to Baron Mastery University.com to invite other conscious and growth oriented individuals in. Just send an email to admin-at-baronmastery.com and put “requesting a BMU.com invitation”  in the subject line.

Back to the Relational Foundation: One of the liberating benefits of mastering your relational foundation is that you happen to find yourself constantly surrounded by loving people who love you: people you respect deeply, and in turn, people who deeply respect you. By mastering your relational foundation you will establish healthy boundaries with everyone around you. You will also have the kind of honest relationships you’ve always wanted with both yourself and with others.

Take a breath because here’s the deal:

Once you are the master of your ego-mind’s fixed ideas about relationships…  you are not willing to put up with any crap!

When you have mastered the relational foundation of life; you don’t put up with being pushed around, and you don’t put up with people trampling all over your boundaries! Not only do you confidently speak your truth, you speak it while being open and compassionately able to hear someone else’s truth without the fear of hurting anyone and without the fear of being personally rejected!

Now come on, be honest, how does that sound? Tell me, how bad do you want to be able to do that and be that way?

One final staggering comment on this foundation. By mastering your relational foundation, you learn to eliminate all fear in relationships so that you can experience love in its fullest form. Need I say more?

Once again this piece is based on The relational foundation of life as featured in my book… “Don’t Read This…your ego won’t like it!” (Which you can find by clicking on the products tab above)

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Until next time live with courage, Dov…

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I know how you feel, I’ve been there…I know you have your reasons to say ‘no’ to yourself, reasons to say ‘no’ to your dreams. 

Maybe you’ve been knocked down too many times, and you just don’t know if you can get up again.  But, know this:  As you stand here on the edge between where you were and where you want to be, life will throw you curve balls, life throws curve balls at us all.

Life may seem cruel and hard and what you need to know is, if you believe that then life will knock you down and it will keep you down, if you don’t find the courage to stand up.

Those around you may tell you that you are not good enough, and they may say it so often that you may even begin to believe it. If that happens, you will find yourself looking for someone or something to blame and every time you do, you are telling yourself that you don’t have what it takes to get up.

That’s a lie!

Life will knock you down, but that doesn’t matter anywhere as much as how hard you can get knocked down without giving up on yourself and on your dreams. I know you’ve been hurt, I know you’ve been disappointed…now what?

Many get hit and they never get up, others go to a certain point and they stop.  Let me ask you what would happen if you got up again?

What would happen if you held a greater vision of what you were capable of, and you held this vision despite everything they told you?

Don’t get me wrong, it might not be easy but, let me share with you what more than twenty-five years of research has shown: What is likely to happen firstly is there will be resistance; it could be resistance from your own ego-mind doing its best to keep you safe in the same old, (often miserable) comfort zone. Sometimes, the resistance is external, those who love you, telling you to be careful, “you don’t want to make a fool of yourself” or some other equally rational answer.

Seriously, stop for a moment and let me ask you this:

When you get to your deathbed…

do you think you’ll regret the times you looked foolish pursuing your dreams in order to live the life you came here to live, or do you think you would experience much more regret at not looking foolish and never reaching what you deeply now know you are capable of?

Listen carefully, your ego-mind can be like a ruthless crooked lawyer building a case using whatever it can while calling its lies “logical reasons”.  What you have to do is employ the fierce power that is the fire in your heart that cries out for you to live your dreams.

I get it! You’ve been knocked down and it hurts, the question is, will you get up?

And what will get you up?

What is it that will have you spring to your feet like Rocky and say,

“Is that the best you’ve got!?”

Decide you can, decide you can’t, either way you’re right.

Winning is an inner game and so is losing!

It’s a game played by two: Your authentic self, that gently whispers for the expression of your dreams and your ego-mind that wants to keep you ‘safe’ screaming at you to stay safe by repressing those dreams.

I sign off each of these writings with the statement: ‘live with courage’ because…

courage is not the absence of fear, courage is when you are terrified and you get up and do it anyway!

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Until next time, “LIVE WITH COURAGE’’,
Dõv…