Relationships can be tough, even in the most loving ones there will be hurt, the need for forgiveness and healthy boundaries. It’s worth remembering that when it comes to conflict:
Those who attack are simply scared!
Nowadays it’s often very easy to walk away from someone you’re not getting along with, but what do you do when the person you’re not getting along with is your primary relationship?
Stop for a moment and consider that I’m not talking about your wife, husband or significant other…
Your primary relationship is… The one you have with yourself!
On the 29 May 1953 the later to be knighted Edmund Hillary was the first man to conquer the seemingly unconquerable Mount Everest…
Can you imagine the ongoing relationship squabbles taking place inside that guy’s head? “It’s too high, no one’s ever climbed it, it’s impossible. You’re crazy to even try, you’re going to fail.”
In all likelihood all these might have been the things he heard out in the world and maybe also in the inner world of his mind. Half way up when the weather got treacherous and on his third attempt his mind and in all likelihood and his body would have been screaming for him to; give up this ridiculous dream.
However, Sir Edmund Hillary had a relationship with himself that forgave the past and held strict boundaries and as a result after three failed attempts he finally did it, he conquered Everest.
In an interview the media said, “You’ve conquered the mountain,” and Hillary said:
“No, I’ve conquered myself.”
What mountain lays before you that in order to conquer it, you must develop a healthy relationship with yourself ?
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What mountain lies before me? The wall of fear that is stopping me from playing large and being all that I can be. I’ve played small my entire life and now I’m ready to change that. Everytime I attempt to look beyond the fear and see what my life will look like when I’m living large and letting my light shine, the wall comes up. I’m going to change that.
Just watch me!
Hi Dov,
Great question, thank you.
I’ve recently come to the realization that the human mind, in order to create a dualistic universe, must itself have the qualities of duality. In other words, I have found within myself what I call the “Christ” mind (or Loving mind) and the “anti-Christ” mind (or fear-based mind) and all of the possible degrees of the fear-based/Love-based mind in between.
As spirit, or who I really am, I have the power to choose which quality of mind I would like to access or use. The mountain before me is encountering all the manifestations of the “anti-Christ” mind still in my experience, and choosing Love, or the Heart, instead.
Of course, fear doesn’t stand a chance in the face of Love, so I have no doubts at all about the outcome!
Love&Gratitude,
Ilana
Like almost all of us I’ve had a relationship that I thought I couldn’t handle. I am friendly and can get along with every man/woman I meet. But that rule didn’t work with, guess who? DAD. I was a good kid, and have been trained to be good to everybody except myself. Until a couple of month ago I didn’t have boundaries. I’ve read about having boundaries, but didn’t get it, like in the movie Yes Man with Jim Carrey.
My AHA moment was Resonating Riches Lesson 2, I think, the lesson about our value. And now I’ve got it, it is all about us, it is me I have to please, not others. I finally have learned to say NO, when I felt I should say NO. I focused the energy and started to change my life, step by step, day after day. I understood that I can help others more, have more energy, be the best me in the moment when I present myself to the world exactly as I AM.
I was in a desperate financial situation in December, but all changed in a few days. I’ve started a new job as spiritual consultant, I could even afford to buy for me the Resonating Riches program, I attract every day opportunities to develop my business, new information, new people, new businesses. I am optimistic about future, and guess what? Today my dad, who was never pleased, just told me ‘thank you, you’re a good kid’.
AHA! Being GOOD means to be good to yourself first. I don’t have to prove anything. Don’t want to say that I’ve conquered myself, but I know in my heart that I’ll live a purposeful life, every second. One of my goals is to be able to participate at one of your live seminars in a few month.
All my love and gratitude,
Olivia
Olivia, that’s great! Thank you for sharing that.
It’s also a bit hard to really look at yourself (how can you change what you don’t see?), and admit that you have stuff you don’t really like. I have been doing that, and while those distasteful realizations are still hard to swallow, I do it with much more confidence now. I have seen great change in myself through seeing those things and dealing with them. It also makes seeing the good things easier!
“Cause I am not hiding from myself.
Now – to work on that silly silly thought that what I love to do is childish, unimportant and/or blind fantasy. (It may be fantasy, but it sure isn’t “blind”!!!)
Thanks Dov!
Learning to love yourself unconditionally is at the heart of trusting yourself completely.
When you trust yourself completely, you are willing to risk revealing yourself and actually doing the work that you love and that matters to you.
Loving yourself also means forgiving yourself when you make mistakes and allowing yourself to be less than perfect as you risk and learn.
No one gets it right the first time. In his book Outliers, Malcom Gladwell discovered that it takes 10,000 hours of practice to become a master of a sport, an instrument, or a skill like computer programming.
Every journey starts with a single step. Every minute spent doing something you love, takes you one minute closer to the goal of 10,000 hours. Don’t give up before you become a master.
Kathleen
I totally agreed with you. The most important relationship that many people never really gave a thought about is the relationship with ourselves. Thinking back, I had always had a conflicting relationship with myself. I knew I could achieve many things but self-doubt was always in the way. However, after discovering ‘The Secret’ Law of Attraction, I have changed and improved!
Than you, dear Dov, for reminding us this Great Truth. With all my gratitude, Rea
Wow! the power of truth. Thank you Dov for the gifts of your online lessons
and this Blog. I look forward to all your corespondence.I immediayely use
what ever I learn and this has been my most fulfilling weeks in a couple of
months.I look forward to the continuing change I can create in simply caring
for me. Thank you Dov!
so true….
NAMASTE
My mountain is self doubt, thinking I am not capable enough, always thinking of the worst case scenario and obstacles first
In the past I let myself be stopped by these obstacles; now I am consciously making an effort to balance my thinking with positive outcomes, but it still can be a struggle. The hardest part is getting myself to take action. When I finally take action, I find it is never as bad as I imagined it to be, and pleasantly surprised that is much easier than I thought it would be.
this message help my courage today!
I can see my moutain in a diferent way
Thank you
I hope this message encourages others as it has me today. I am continuously amazed on how you attract that what you seek for, and quoting what you wrote up top, giving in to the feeding of our..”.soul which cries for significance”, gives it a voice,that voice that fed on the right nourishment will be the proper fuel of encouragement that will allow us to reach the top of the next big mountain that may come. Thanky ou greatly for your voice nourishing, it truly did mine.
Loots of Love& loots of gratitude!
Eddie
Yes, mythical Avalon!
wow, this is truly food for the soul. thank you